itches, illness and 'I'

good evening reader
still ill but now got prescription [penicillin - 4x a day]. Itching to get back to work, itching because a few fleas found on cat [dealt with but still - itch itch]

I.

One tidy desk later, and consideration back again into family tree - doing a lot of research - trying to ascertain 100% each fact so back to basics - want to get it done by end of October on one branch as then i can buy a present for my paternal grandmother...
talking of grans
how do you make peace with someone who is too proud/upset/stubborn to apologise?
I don't know.
I've spoken to some of the people hurt in the matter. I 'think' I'm able to forgive her though it takes a lot of my damage to my pride to admit/permit that.
I made an oath that I wouldn't speak to the person until they apologised - or at least made first contact. How can I make contact, offer a branch of peace again without feeling like I'm surrendering something, giving in - is that just pride or is it something more, to feel inferior/superior - holding power...
as i type this i realise how petty it sounds, esp with so much crap already in the world. Yet the damage done, the wounds caused and lives affected - it wasn't just a simple argument. There were potentially legal implications, possible framing of crime, and I'm not too sure if i can just 'forgive' that...

Without too much detail, I helped someone out. The help resulted in things not going the person's way. The person blamed me, despite everything I did being done with permission and acceptance. But. But. not enough. The end result was a great loss to the person and things were left hanging. I tried to explain but the hurt felt was too much - I was the object and target for the hurt - and anyone who assisted was also targeted. Unfairly but then when you are in grief for loss, you don't thin straight.
Yes, I'm defending the person's actions, being able to see it in a fairer way.
Is it enough to offer friendship or should I ensure that the bridge is built? Surely it is two-way?
Time is not with me though - I have a feeling this person is getting older quickly and may be getting ill..
Bury the past and salvage the present? But how without causing an upset to the people around me who are also hurting?
Sigh

...the ties that bind us...